A New Year is a good opportunity to introduce new changes, because it generally suggests wiping the slate clean, starting afresh and being a new person again. (The New Year may also be the time where you can set aside all disputes you may have had in the months before, and for a few hours or days until your next error, feel like a blameless person!) It is no surprise that many new year resolutions are made in January, and everyone hopes to demonstrate more positivity in their lives by introducing a change for the better. This may be something such as to live more healthily, to be a better person, or to visit someone more often and give them support or company.
Usually the belief in the new behaviour is reward enough to try. For example, making a resolution to go out and exercise may be good enough if you can see that a fitter you might also be a better you. But we know that humans are creatures of habit and until new intentions become habitual we may need to find some way to overcome it. So how do you do it? Would you punish yourself if you failed to live up to your resolution so that you might be more committed to it?
Some people believe in the negative punishment while others believe in establishing routine through positive reinforcement. However you choose to do it, you have to remember that the whole point of resolutions is so that you better yourself through a process of evolution – you have to evolve as you better yourself. Perhaps that in understanding that you will find the motivation to keep hanging on to your resolution and pushing through the difficult moments.
To summarise – we make resolutions in the new year. We want to improve ourselves – which is why we do it. See it as a process, that it is not going to happen overnight, and keep trying – you’ll get there when it becomes a habit!