Why moving house is stressful and how to manage it

A recent study found that over two thirds of adults would put moving house at the top of the stress list. The whole process of shifting from one property to property can cause stress levels to rise, catastrophically in some, and at least to some degree in others. It is not unsurprising of course. Imagine having to pack up all the items in your fridge, placing them carefully so they are not damaged in transit, then transporting them to be transferred in a different fridge elsewhere. The process of moving house is similar to that, but on a greater level. It may even involve transporting the fridge itself! The whole process of bundling your life’s possessions into little boxes and hauling them elsewhere to unpack can be a physically exhausting process.

Some people liken the whole process to military boot camp. You do physical tasks, for what seems like a menial purpose over and over again. Lift box. Put box in removals van. Lift next box. You could at least look at the positive side of things. In the whole process of moving house you could unearth a few lost items that you had forgotten about. Moving house involves excavating behind the settee, behind cupboards and may reunite you with old treasures.

Is it fair to say though, that the physical side of moving house is only the tip of the iceberg? The actual day is only one in the long run of things, a chain that starts with viewings, making offers, mortgage agreements in principle, conveyancing, exchange of deeds. Along the way there are various conversations to be had with estate agents, solicitors, the other party. All that increased workload has to be factored in the working day and fitted in somehow among the demands of work, because normal life can’t stop just because you are moving house … and in the midst of all that there is the constant thought of wondering if you made the right choice. But the most important trigger of stress could be said to be – amidst all that has been mentioned – the threat of a sale falling through. All the work and planning for moving house could be for nothing, and could be wiped out with a single phone call. Why do sales fall through? It could be your finances not adding up. It could be that the seller is in a chain and further up there has been some complication which has fallen back on you. Or it could be something as fickle as the seller trying to extract more money from you, using improving market conditions as an excuse. Or the seller may simply have decided not to move.

Of the above reasons, only one is within your control. When you commit to a purchase, your time and energies are placed in one basket, but this commitment to the buyer is not necessarily reciprocal. It is a bit like buying a lottery ticket with your last pound, and hoping the results will work in your favour. And the prolonged process of trying to live under that kind of umbrella can evoke underlying stress.

Moving house is also not just about moving properties. For some, it is also about a change of lifestyle especially if you are relocating from city to country or vice versa. A change in locations especially across cities may mean changes in relationships, your helpful neighbours in London may find it hard to make it to Bedford. Moving house may also mean moving jobs. The transitions between two different sets of lifestyles, and having to straddle between them for a few months, can similarly be difficult. And if you are moving into a property that needs renovating, there are more obstacles to life in the road ahead.

No wonder moving house causes stress. On one hand, it is the culmination of one process that started with looking for a new home. On the other hand, it is the start of a new stress process of a new lifestyle. And the actual move itself can be stressful.

But there are things you can do to alleviate the stress. You can never eliminate stress completely, but the sense that you have done all you can for the things within your control can give you some stability and peace of mind throughout the process. Get your agreement in principle in order before you make an offer. Make a list of moving companies in your area and services in the area you are moving to. And when you are looking for properties, choose an agent registered with The Property Ombudsman. This ensures that you have some avenue for redress in event of a complaint. You may not need it, but the feeling of being in control may help reduce the stress normally associated with moving.